Meet Nicolette.

Hi! I’m Nicolette.

She/her.
LGBTQ+ affirming

Long standing (questionably healthy) relationship with Candy Crush.
Intrigued by aliens and potential communications with them.
Jalapeño Cheeto obsessed.
Couponing fills my love bucket.
A dirty chai can make my day.
May have seen all the “Keeping Up with the Kardashians.”

what they’re saying…

"Tangible results. I would summarize my experience working with Nicolette in those two words. Not only did I find her very compatible to my preferred style of therapy work, but she was able to give me real world applications for clinical skills. Having been to many, many therapists-I can easily say she has been the best. I’m happy with the results I have seen and look forward to seeing what comes now!"

— Privately Disclosed
"Since I started working with Nicolette, she has made ever session feel comfortable and welcoming. I was afraid of seeking help for my mental health because I didn't want to be judged, or be made to feel worse than I already did. I never feel that way! Nicolette spends every session making me feel validated, and calm. It always feels like a safe space where I can speak about whatever is on my mind no matter how scary or embarrassing it may seem. She laughs with me, lets me cry it out when the feelings get too big, and reminds me that a lot of this is normal. Nicolette has not only taught me a variety of tools to make my healing journey easier, she has also helped me learn so much about myself. I feel so much lighter after my sessions, and they're something I look forward to!"

— Privately Disclosed
"Nicolette has truly been a god send! She has helped me navigate through some very traumatic past experiences, while teaching me the skills to face those traumas and come out stronger on the other side. She does not simply give you the answers, although sometimes I wish she did, she makes you walk the path and find the answers on your own. All while walking beside you and allowing you to lean on her when things get tough. I never thought I would be able to find someone who I could talk to openly, all while not feeling judged or foolish. Nicolette is kind, compassionate, thought provoking and an amazing leader through the darkness. I would recommend her to anyone who is looking! The leap of faith that I took in working with Silver Birch and Nicolette Ulstrom is one that I am so incredibly grateful that I took!"

— Privately Disclosed
"I was super excited to be working with Nicolette and still am! She is absolutely wonderful and explains my feelings to me way better than I could imagine. It’s almost like she is inside my brain sorting it out and healing it at the same time. Working with her has been such an adventure. She is very knowledgeable and has resources for me even when I am on my own. Overall, she is a very caring woman and is beyond helpful."

— Privately Disclosed
"Like many, I began my therapy journey during the height of the pandemic in 2020. It was a scary time and I was so grateful that virtual sessions were offered. When I first started, I assumed that I was needing therapy to get through this unprecedented time of isolation, but later came to realize through thoughtful conversations with my therapist that there were other areas in my life that needed nurturing and support. While sometimes challenging, I always appreciate the intention of being the architect of my own growth and progress. While initially, I sought 'answers' from her, now I am learning to seek within myself alongside a guide."

— Privately Disclosed
"Coming into therapy, I truly didn't know what to expect. For someone who talks a lot, I have never been one to open up and talk about my feelings with people, so I was anxious and nervous to start the whole process. Despite hearing how great therapy is, I was still hesitant to place myself in such a vulnerable position. Nevertheless, I decided I should give it a try and form my own opinion about it. I started meeting with Nicolette every other week and we clicked instantly! She has helped me work through some buried issues that I have been ignoring for several years, she has helped me regain my confidence and remember by self worth, and she has helped me heal in ways I didn't realize I needed to. I can truly say that I am sitting in a much better place, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and even physically, since I started meeting with her. Being able to have challenging conversations is so important for growth and if you don't feel comfortable having those conversations with people you know right now, I definitely recommend signing up for sessions with Nicolette. She will hold you accountable, but will be there for you every step of the way. I am so happy I took the leap and signed up for therapy with Silver Birch."

— Privately Disclosed
"I was in a dark place with myself and my marriage when I first started therapy with Nicolette. She made me feel at ease while talking through extremely difficult topics. I appreciate that she helped me question my previous perspectives, while opening the door to a different way of problem solving. The best part of my therapy has been that I’m now learning new skills to build a life that I’m proud of. I've been able to form deeper relationships and I've even been help others. I’m reaching a point that I didn’t realize was possible when I first started my sessions a year ago. And for that – I truly can’t thank her enough!"

— Privately Disclosed
“I didn't know where to even begin trying to work through the issues I was struggling with. During my first session with Nicollete, she made me feel comfortable, and the conversation feel so natural, I knew I'd made the right choice with Silver Birch. Nicollete knows how to ask the right questions to help me see things from a different perspective, one where I'm capable and confident that I can work through things and be my best self. The personal growth I've experienced since I started therapy is truly amazing! Nicollete helped me identify and break unhealthy patterns, forgive myself for past mistakes, understand that I deserve love, and learn to love myself. I'm in a much better and much happier place in my life and I'm thankful for it every day.”

— Privately Disclosed

I hope she doesn’t diagnose me as crazy and too far gone!

That might be what you think as you get ready for your first session. You want to take a hard pass, but instead, you take a deep breath and enter the virtual therapy room.

And right off the bat…

Hey, this feels better than I thought!

Would you believe it… 15 minutes and you can’t stop word-vomiting!

It feels SO GOOD talking to this lady, Nicolette. It feels comforting. It feels safe. It feels like it’s all going to get figured out. Finally!

Ending the session with a huge sigh, you can’t help but think how this FEELS RIGHT – that it’s going to be okay.

And your journey ends up more than okay. Each session, you show up, ready to lay it all on the table and be challenged.

Finally, the puzzle pieces are lining up, and you’re creating your best life.

Lack of motivation, low self-esteem, boredom, not feeling important, blah-ness, anxiety… it’s all in your rearview mirror. Even your relationships and work-life are better.

Say “hello” to feeling fresh, light, and pumped!

Ummm…Nicolette might be some kind of magician.

I appreciate that, but actually, I’m not the one who’s given you the magic wand. You’ve always had it. I just helped you find it and use the sh*t out of it!

YOU created awesome changes in your life.

YOU did the hard work.

YOU brought the magic to your own life.

Here are the best parts of the work we’ll do:

The worry, sadness, anger, and frustration – all that heaviness you felt every day – start feeling like distant memories.

The “aha” moments from our sessions keep coming at you full speed, making you feel you have your power back.

The little changes you notice each week make you feel you are getting back to your true self.

Your relationships, work, and all your to-dos are all feeling better.

You think that your therapist is some sort of superhero because this shit is actually working.

But it’s actually YOU that’s the superhero.

YOU are the one who created a sh*t ton of changes in your life.

YOU did the hard work.

YOU showed up every session to lay it all out there.

I’m just your sidekick, helping ignite your superpowers and cracking some corny jokes along the way.

This is about YOU.

The clients I work best with: You are looking to have a genuine, real human therapist that gets you. You show up with a notebook, a bullet point list or your notes app filled with all the things you are ready to dig into. You find yourself saying “I will do anything to just feel better.” You are desperate for change and READY to invest in yourself. You want to be comfortable sharing the big, the small and the ugly.

The deets on what makes me qualified.

Bachelor of Arts in Psychology with a minor in Women’s Studies through the University of River Falls, Wisconsin
Master of Arts in Marriage and Family Therapy through Argosy University
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist through Minnesota Board of Marriage and Family Therapy
EMDR-Trained Therapist through Life Development Resources, Pennsylvania
Ten years experience in chemical dependency
Trainings I & II for couples counseling through the Gottman Institute
Extra education related to sex therapy by Susan Johnson, Ed.D.

Professional Endorsements

“I’ve worked with Nicolette for almost 10 years in the behavioral health field. Her approach to client care is both empathic and insightful. She takes the time to get to know her clients in order to best understand their problem from their unique perspective. Nicolette plays on the strengths of the individual and empowers the client to reach their self-proscribed goals. Her approach to therapy is collaborative in nature, which offers space for the client to feel heard and understood.”

— Casey Blum, BS, LADC
I have worked collaboratively with Nicolette for nearly 10 years within the behavioral health field, which allowed me to witness Nicolette’s genuine, relational, and client centered approach to therapy. Nicolette is a caring, calm, and empathetic therapist. She uses a combination of evidence based practices and authentic client centered relationships to approach a client’s unique set of issues. Nicolette has a passion for working with women and is experienced in gender specific issues, trauma, depression, anxiety, and addiction. She helps empower clients to facilitate their own growth and feels very collaborative. She balances providing support and accountability, making it feel like you have someone on your side that can give you that nudge when you need it.

— Sarah Winters, MA, LADC
“Having the opportunity to see Nicolette work with clients taught me about professionalism, ethical practice and client-centered care. Nicolette has the ability to create a safe place for clients to engage in personal growth and make meaningful changes in their lives. Nicolette is able to individualize the interventions to help support client growth and strives to get to know her clients' individual needs and goals. Nicolette is knowledgeable, supportive, and relational. She is a talented and compassionate clinician!”

— Gretchen Raymer, MA, LADC
“Nicolette is a caring and empathetic therapist who uses her relationships with clients to help the client fulfill their goals and move towards positive change. Nicolette is a warm and compassionate individual, and she deeply cares about the wellbeing of others. She has a wealth of knowledge about a variety of topics including family systems, addiction, depression, trauma and life cycle changes. Nicolette is passionate helping others feel empowered and become their best selves.”

— Carmen Finn, LAMFT, LADC, ADCR-MN
“I first met Nicolette when she was working as a counselor in a residential treatment setting. Seeing and witnessing first hand how she was able to connect with and provide counseling services to women from many different cultural backgrounds played a major role in what inspired me to pursue a career in the mental health field as well. Nicolette provides compassion and understanding while also finding a balance to not enable clients. She has an ability to empathize and relate to people while maintaining a professional therapeutic relationship. I've seen her continuously provide accountability to clients while also holding them in capability to make changes in their lives. It has been a privilege to learn and work with someone who is so passionate about helping individuals find their strength and their voice, doing so as she continues to pursue growth and development personally and professionally.”

— Kelsey Kirkwood, MA LADC