After The Affair, Your Body Still Feels Unsafe
Virtual EMDR Therapy for MN and ND adults navigating infidelity trauma and ready to stop reliving it every day.
➤ Stop replaying the discovery in your head
➤ Stop scanning for more lies
➤ Calm the nervous system that will not settle
Private. Structured. Reviewed for fit.
Trusted for Over 10 Years
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You Saw It. And Your Body Has Not Calmed Since.
It was a message. A photo. A receipt. A second phone.
Your stomach dropped so fast it felt physical.
Even if you are still together, something inside you fractured that day.
Now you wake up at 3 AM replaying the timeline.
You picture them together.
You re read conversations.
You check the phone even when you promised yourself you would not.
You feel angry.
Then numb.
Then ashamed that you are still this angry.
You try to “be rational.”
But your body is still in survival mode.
Infidelity is not just a relationship issue.
It is a nervous system injury.
You do not need someone to tell you whether to stay or leave.
You need your body to stop reacting like the betrayal is happening again.
This Is Trauma Processing. Not Just Talking.
Betrayal trauma creates very real symptoms.
Intrusive thoughts.
Hyper vigilance.
Emotional flooding.
Rage spikes.
Shame waves.
Obsessive checking.
EMDR helps your brain process the specific moments that are still activating you.
We identify the discovery memory.
The images that will not leave.
The words that still sting.
Then we process them safely so they no longer feel immediate.
You will not forget what happened.
But it will stop hijacking your nervous system.
This is structured, virtual EMDR therapy for adults in MN and ND navigating betrayal trauma.
Focused. Precise. Root level.
What Healing Actually Feels Like
✔ You think about what happened and your chest does not tighten.
✔ You stop mentally checking their location.
✔ You have a hard conversation without spiraling afterward.
✔ You feel anger without feeling consumed.
✔ You begin making decisions from clarity instead of panic.
✔ If you stay, you do it from strength.
✔ If you leave, you do it from steadiness.
✔ You are no longer operating from shock.
✔ You are operating from grounded self trust.
Why Choose Silver Birch
We are fully licensed clinicians trained in EMDR and trauma informed modalities.
We specialize in attachment trauma and betrayal trauma.
We understand that infidelity is not just emotional pain. It is a rupture of safety.
We do not minimize it.
We do not rush forgiveness.
We do not pressure reconciliation.
We stabilize your nervous system first.
Midwest adults value privacy. Competence. Directness.
So do we.
Virtual sessions allow you to do this work discreetly and safely.
This is serious trauma work handled professionally.
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Amy Vredenburgh, LMFT
Founder, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist
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Nicolette Ulstrom, LMFT
Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist
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Maranda Jacobsen, LPCC
Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor
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Samantha Relining, LCSW, LICSW, LAC, LADC
Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Licensed Alcohol and Drug Counselor
This Is For You If
➤ You discovered infidelity and cannot stop replaying it
➤ You feel constantly on edge or emotionally flooded
➤ You are high functioning but internally unraveling
➤ You want clarity before making permanent decisions
➤ You are ready to invest in trauma informed healing
This is not for active domestic violence or emergency crisis situations.
Investment
Virtual EMDR Therapy
Standard 60 minute sessions
Cash pay only.
We will discuss structure and pacing during your Free 15 Minute Consultation based on your nervous system stability and goals.
This is not about endless venting.
It is about helping your body process betrayal so you can move forward without constant activation.
Common Questions
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Yes. EMDR is widely used for betrayal trauma and intrusive memory processing.
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That is common. We focus first on stabilizing you so decisions are not driven by panic.
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No. This page is for individual trauma processing.
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Some clients notice meaningful relief quickly. Others require deeper processing. We tailor pacing carefully.
You Deserve To Feel Safe In Your Own Body Again
Infidelity can shatter your sense of safety.
But you do not have to stay in shock mode forever.
Book your Free 15 Minute Consultation and we will explore whether EMDR is the right next step.