You don’t have to prove your childhood was “bad” enough.
★★★★★
“I have been able to move past somethings that were holding me down for well over a decade.” - Privately Disclosed
Therapy for adults whose nervous systems learned early to stay small, easy, and low-maintenance.
Even if everything looked fine on the outside, your body may still be holding the pattern.
Why do these patterns keep showing up?
➤ You learned early to be easy, quiet, or low-maintenance.
➤ Your nervous system adapted by staying alert or self-contained.
➤ Now it shows up as overthinking, tension, or people-pleasing.
You can understand all of this logically, and still feel it in your body every day.
You’ve tried handling it on your own.
You’ve tried handling it on your own.
Thinking it through. Being self-aware. Trying to stay reasonable.
But the patterns are still there.
Replaying conversations. Scanning people’s reactions. Feeling tension when nothing is actually wrong.
Talking helps you understand it, but it doesn’t always change it.
Because this isn’t just a thinking problem. It’s a nervous system pattern.
That’s where EMDR comes in.
A calm, no-pressure way to see if this fits.
Healing this doesn’t require tearing everything apart.
When the nervous system starts to release what it learned early, things begin to shift.
➤ Less tension.
➤ Less mental looping.
➤ More space before you react.
Not dramatic. But real.
Free 15-minute consultation. No pressure. Just a place to start.
Here to cry with you and cuss with you and trusted for over 10 years:
-
"Tangible results. … Having been to many, many therapists - I can easily say she has been the best. I’m happy with the results I have seen and look forward to seeing what comes now!"
Privately Disclosed
-
“Within several months my perspective had completely changed and I was able to make progress and move past emotional obstacles that had been blocking my ability to proceed forward.”
Privately Disclosed
-
“I have been able to move past somethings that were holding me down for well over a decade. I feel lighter and am able to deal with setbacks easier than before therapy. I have done both traditional talk therapy and EMDR…and there isn’t anyone I would recommend more!"
Privately Disclosed
-
“I have left every session ... feeling like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders and I am ready to go enjoy the rest of my day with a clear head. I highly recommend ... Silver Birch Therapy to anyone struggling and in need of a little extra help!”
Privately Disclosed
-
“She has helped me overcome past fears and traumas and has helped me mature into a more confident and well-rounded individual. She is always there to support me, but also challenge me and push me to be better…Through traditional talk therapy and EMDR she has helped me develop and learn to deal with my traumas in the past and present."
Privately Disclosed
-
"I look forward to my monthly sessions as I always come away from them with a renewed sense of my own value…insight and feedback has opened my eyes to my own thought patterns and how they impact my well-being.”
Privately Disclosed
-
“I began therapy and EMDR believing it was some voodoo magic that wouldn't help at all. Now I find myself looking forward to every session… I have noticed progress and healing in myself, my emotions, and my every day life. I'm not sure where I would be without this experience and the time spent in therapy…I do know that looking back, I wish I had started down this long road sooner…"
Privately Disclosed
-
“…the first therapist I have had that has really challenged me to look deeper and really help to form the new perspective that I need to heal from past trauma. I would highly recommend her to anyone!"
Privately Disclosed
-
" She laughs with me, lets me cry it out when the feelings get too big, and reminds me that a lot of this is normal. …I feel so much lighter after my sessions, and they're something I look forward to!"
Privately Disclosed
-
“…helped me navigate through some very traumatic past experiences, while teaching me the skills to face those traumas and come out stronger on the other side…. I never thought I would be able to find someone who I could talk to openly, all while not feeling judged or foolish… I would recommend her to anyone who is looking! The leap of faith that I took in working with Silver Birch… is one that I am so incredibly grateful that I took!"
Privately Disclosed
-
“…While sometimes challenging, I always appreciate the intention of being the architect of my own growth and progress. While initially, I sought 'answers' from her, now I am learning to seek within myself alongside a guide."
Privately Disclosed
-
“…The best part of my therapy has been that I’m now learning new skills to build a life that I’m proud of. I've been able to form deeper relationships and I've even been able to help others. I’m reaching a point that I didn’t realize was possible when I first started my sessions a year ago.”
Privately Disclosed
-
“…I appreciate how she is able to be fully supportive of me, hold me accountable in a direct way, provide an objective perspective to my fears and/or anxiety, and then being able to report back to her (and celebrate) when I follow through with difficult tasks.”
Privately Disclosed
-
“I didn't know where to even begin trying to work through the issues I was struggling with… I'm capable and confident that I can work through things and be my best self. The personal growth I've experienced since I started therapy is truly amazing! I'm in a much better and much happier place in my life and I'm thankful for it every day.”
Privately Disclosed
-
“I am deeply grateful for the support given… the progress made I made in our short time together…was extremely helpful at a crucial time/within a crucial season of my life. I will always be grateful for that.”
Privately Disclosed
-
“I don’t quite know how she does it but I always feel calm, supported and capable of tackling really big goals.”
Privately Disclosed
-
"This retreat may be the biggest single event that has saved my marriage, I would recommend having mini retreats every so often to do a refresher or clean out clutter that get moved off to the side but linger and affect the connections between my spouse and I…This experience was exhausting for both me and my spouse, yet at the same time it was very energetic for our relationship.”
Privately Disclosed
-
"EMDR has been a game changer in a matter of months for my self worth, relationships, and boundaries...so caring, safe, and truly an amazing partner in this journey."
Privately Disclosed
-
"It is the best feeling in the world to find someone who you click with, I’m able to be open and raw... It is so important to be able to find that connection with your therapist. I’m so happy she is in my corner!"
Privately Disclosed
-
"From my first session...at Silver Birch Therapy I knew I'd found something special. She's become the supportive voice I've always needed in my head, striking that perfect balance between gentle reassurance and pushing me to grow when needed. Her empathy is genuine and her approach just clicks. If you're looking for a therapist who truly gets it... Best decision I've made for my mental health journey!"
Privately Disclosed
-
"I came to Silver Birch having never having received therapy in the past with little hope of finding the help I needed & within the first session I knew this place was motivated in the right ways. My needs & desires for service are being met in the ways I am requesting with each day being somewhat tailored to what I asked for, as well as expanding my thought process in ways I didn’t know would help. Greatly value the time I have spent with this group so far."
Privately Disclosed
-
“My biggest fear in being vulnerable is being judged afterwards. I was very nervous and had my doubts… Let’s just say it was the best decision I made that day. The process was super simple. Super easy and user friendly. I never was rushed. After just 15 minutes I felt like I was catching up with an old friend. She helped me tremendously in a short time. I was at my lowest and after the first appointment I felt like there was hope. Silver Birch has turned a lot of things around in my life in a short time. Highly recommended.”
Privately Disclosed
-
"...makes therapy feel warm and welcoming, even in a virtual setting. She’s great at creating a safe space where you can be open and honest, and she knows how to add in humor and lightness. She’s genuinely compassionate and a a true partner in navigating complex situations, making you feel feeling understood and cared for."
Privately Disclosed
-
"...Then I found Silver Birch… It's been a game changer...Silver Birch…was the perfect fit. I can't recommend them enough."
Privately Disclosed
-
"...has a calm and patient presence, and each session with her grounds me. I feel heard and like I can trust her with the most vulnerable parts of me and my life story. My initial therapy goal was to reduce my anxiety and to become more functional. That goal was met in a short period of time. She provides me with the tools I need to regulate and reinforce concepts between sessions. … has helped me regain control over my life and to understand myself."
Privately Disclosed
-
"We began with talk therapy, which was incredibly helpful and brought so much support to my life and overall well-being. Later, … suggested EMDR therapy to explore things more deeply, and it has been a powerful tool for healing past traumas. I feel truly heard and supported through Silver Birch."
Privately Disclosed
-
"Working with Silver Birch has truly been life-changing. … created a safe, welcoming space where I felt heard. Through our sessions, I’ve gained valuable tools to manage stress, improve my emotional well-being, and navigate challenges with confidence. What stands out most is their ability to listen without judgment and offer practical strategies that actually work."
Privately Disclosed
Your childhood looked normal, but your nervous system tells a different story.
➤ You learned to minimize your needs.
➤ You replay interactions long after they end.
➤ You feel responsible for keeping things smooth.
➤ Boundaries feel uncomfortable.
➤ Even when life is stable, your body stays on alert.
When these patterns continue, life can start to feel exhausting.
When they begin to shift:
✔ Things finally make sense.
✔ Your reactions feel more manageable.
✔ Your mind stops running the same loops.
Why this approach works
Understanding your past helps. But most of this isn’t just mental.
It’s stored in the nervous system.
That’s why thinking your way out of it doesn’t work.
EMDR is an evidence-based approach that helps process those patterns so your brain and body can respond differently.
This approach focuses on:
➤ Processing early emotional experiences.
➤ Nervous system regulation and stabilization.
➤ Understanding how patterns still show up today.
➤ Building responses that feel calmer and more grounded.
This is not endless talking about the past
We don’t stay at the surface. We go to the patterns that are still running your system.
The ones that make you brace, people-please, or shut down.
And we process them so they stop running automatically.
Clients often notice:
✔ Less shutdown in conflict.
✔ Less replaying interactions.
✔ Less guilt around needs.
✔ More stable, calm relationships.
Not a new personality. A different baseline.
Your 4-Step Path
-
Consultation Call
A brief 15-minute conversation to see if this approach feels like a good fit for you and your pace.
-
Stabilization and Safety
We begin by helping your nervous system feel calmer and more supported so therapy does not feel overwhelming.
-
Processing the Patterns
Using EMDR, we gently process the early emotional experiences that shaped the patterns you still carry.
-
Moving Forward Differently
As those patterns release, many clients notice more ease in daily life, less overthinking, less tension, and more freedom to respond differently.
What begins to change when the nervous system calms.
✔ You answer a message and your body doesn’t spike.
✔ You say “no” without your chest tightening.
✔ Conversations don’t replay for hours.
✔ Asking for support feels more neutral.
✔ You stop over-explaining yourself.
✔ Relationships feel calmer.
Not dramatic. But meaningful.
Here to cry with you and cuss with you. Meet Your Therapists at Silver Birch Therapy.
You don’t need a “bad enough” story to be here.
A lot of the people we work with grew up in homes that looked fine.
But their nervous systems learned to stay small, quiet, or overly responsible.
That doesn’t just go away.
We focus on the patterns that are still running your reactions
and help you actually shift them.
➤ EMDR-trained clinicians
➤ Focused on attachment and emotional neglect
We keep this simple and real.
No rushing. No dragging it out.
-
Amy Vredenburgh, LMFT
Founder, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist
-
Nicolette Ulstrom, LMFT
Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist
-
Maranda Jacobsen, LPCC
Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor
-
Samantha Miller, LCSW, LICSW, LAC, LADC
Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Licensed Alcohol and Drug Counselor
Not sure if this applies to you?
Read this and see what hits:
➤ You replay conversations long after they’re over
➤ You feel responsible for how other people feel
➤ You try to stay easy to be around or low-maintenance
➤ Even when things are fine, your body stays tense or on alert
➤ Setting boundaries or asking for support brings up guilt
➤ From the outside, life looks stable. Internally, something still feels off
If a few of these hit, this is probably you. Your nervous system is still running patterns it learned a long time ago.
A free 15-minute consultation gives you a clear read on what’s actually going on…
and whether this approach will work for you.
Virtual EMDR Therapy Sessions
Virtual EMDR Therapy Sessions
Standard 50-minute virtual sessions for adults in Minnesota and North Dakota.
Private-pay therapy.
This work focuses on meaningful shifts, not endless therapy.
Free 15-minute consultation.
A calm, private conversation where we can:
➤ Understand the patterns you're experiencing.
➤ Explain how EMDR works.
➤ See if this approach fits your needs.
No pressure to continue.